Tuesday, December 31, 2013

New Year's Eve 2013

Reviewing my resolutions for 2013:

I want to grow spiritually, emotionally and mentally, while shrinking physically.

Early in 2013, I had the flu. Despite having the flu vaccine early in the season, I got really sick. At the same time, a guy from the old neighborhood was also sick with the flu. Just as my doctor and I were discussing my need for a chest X-ray, this man was in-patient with pneumonia. He was intubated. And even with the best care anywhere, he died.

When I found out he died, my life changed. I called a doctor that day and moved forward with weight loss surgery. I made the decision to change my life and in September, I had a gastric sleeve and hiatal hernia repair. Almost 50lbs later, I am looking forward to moving more, doing more and there is no going back.

In August I realized a lifelong dream and traveled to Africa. I remembered how much I loved seeing new places and learning about other cultures. The result is a me I haven’t seen in a while, and I am loving rediscovering the girl I was.

I give myself a B+ for a job well done.


I want to spend more time with my family. I want to learn more of my family history and share it with my children.

I love spending time with my children and my extended family, and loved my time with my sister at the end of the summer. I love the nights when my son and I curl up and watch the latest greatest thing and when he jumps into the books I have long loved. I enjoy that helping my daughter edit her papers has helped her grow as a student. I love the holidays, with Pictionary championship play and good food with the celebrations… a good time had by all!

Again a B+


I want to learn how to be content with where my life is at the moment- be in the moment instead of wistfully wishing for a different life.

Taking a day at a time, dedicating myself to family and home, and living the best life I can while sharing my time with friends and exploring the world around me… there are still difficult days, moments of sad reflection, but they are fewer and farther between.

In this, a C+ shows my effort.


And for 2014…

Reduce the amount of stuff around me that really doesn’t contribute to my life…

Continue my focus on a healthier lifestyle and weight loss…

Reading more…

Spending more quality time with my children and family…

Spending less money...

Do a better job of being a positive person. As “Dear Abby” says, What is the kindest, most loving thing I can say or do at this particular moment?"

Happy New Year!

Wednesday, December 25, 2013

Christmas with Jesus

Tea has been made and enjoyed, gifts have been exchanged and unwrapped and "A Christmas Story" is playing in the background. Family far and near have been in touch by phone and social media, and my cousin posted this to remember both my mom and her dad. As I write this I think of those who have only just lost loved ones. I am praying for you today.

I'm Spending Christmas with Jesus Christ this Year

I see the countless Christmas trees,...
Around the world below.
With tiny lights, like heaven's stars,
Reflecting on the snow.

The sight is so spectacular,
Please wipe away that tear.
For I'm spending Christmas,
With Jesus Christ this year.

I hear the many Christmas songs,
That people hold so dear.
But the sounds of music can't compare,
With the Christmas choir up here.

For I have no words to tell you,
The joy their voices bring.
For it is beyond description,
To hear the angels sing.

I can't tell you of the splendor,
Or the peace here in this place.
Can you just imagine Christmas,
With our Savior, face to face?

I'll ask Him to light your spirit,
As I tell Him of your love.
So then pray one for another,
As I lift you eyes above.

Please let your hearts be joyful,
And let your spirit sing.
For I'm Spending Christmas in Heaven,
And I'm walking with the King.

~© Wanda Bencke ~

Friday, December 20, 2013

Thankfulness Journal Day Thirty



On December 20th 2002, a Friday just like today, I got a call that changed my life. My mom had collapsed at work. She did not regain consciousness before dying on Christmas night.

Today, in honor of her, I am thankful for:

1) First responders
2) ER nurses
3) ICU nurses
4) those last few days to say goodbye
5) her lasting presence in my life

I love you, Mom. Always!

Thursday, December 19, 2013

Thankfulness Journal Days 27-29

Thankfulness Journal Day 27

It is Tuesday, December 17th and I am grateful for:

1. A puppy’s owner found
2. Visits from friends and neighbors
3. Sending stuff to live somewhere else
4. Sharing the books I love with my son- Hitchhiker's Guide series is his current Favorite
5. Friends who are more tech savvy than me- so that is how to get the battery to stay in

Thankfulness Journal Day 28
It is Wednesday, December 18th and I am grateful for:

1. Random E-mails from friends around the world- love staying in touch
2. Cousins everywhere who are up for anything
3. Skipping commercials on my DVR- LOVE!
4. Super scores on Candy Crush
5. That my uncle was not injured when he fell today- Scary!

Thankfulness Journal Day 29
It is Thursday, December 19th and I am grateful for:

1. Calls from my favorite EB mammas
2. Cute reindeer hair on Facebook
3. Chicken Salad by Bobbie- YUMMY
4. Happy Birthday celebrations and decorations
5. Santa kneeling in front of the Baby Jesus

Monday, December 16, 2013

Thankfulness Journal days 23-26

Thankfulness Journal Day 23


It is Friday, December 13th and I am grateful for:

1. The ornament my sister sent me- I love it

2. My father’s generous offer- he wants me to visit and offered to pay, since budgeting the trip would postpone it for a long while

3. My son’s teachers, who give their best every day and it shows

4. Snow on a weekend- so I don’t have to drive all the way downtown in it

5. Surprise presents- My aunt left me Irish tea- picture me happy!


Thankfulness Journal Day 24

It is Saturday, December 14th and I am grateful for:

1. Saturday dermatology appointments (and cancellations that get me in so fast!)

2. That my little spots were easy to remove and my skin check is now all clear

3. My snake racks going to a good home

4. Ron helping me move heavy stuff up the stairs

5. That the predicted rotten weather didn’t show up- Happy day!


Thankfulness Journal Day 25

It is Sunday, December 15th and I am grateful for:

1. Confirmed travel plans- my daughter, my son and I all know where everyone will be and when…

2. My daughter’s dad’s family- they are good people to both her and me.

3. The kindness of my children- we rescued a little stray on a cold night- now to find the owners

4. The Fairfield Police- because they take “found animal” reports

5. The wait staff everywhere- they work hard


Thankfulness Journal Day 26

It is Monday, December 16th and I am grateful for:

1. Scoopable litter- if you have a cat, you know what I mean

2. CCHMC and the staff here- it is a special place

3. My friends at Forest Park Auto- they make it so much easier

4. Goodies from the office- love my new hand cream!

5. Recycled treasures

Thursday, December 12, 2013

Thankfulness Journal Day 22

Today is all about my mother, Nuala Elizabeth Kelly who was born three quarters of a century ago today. She was always a special person and today I remember:

She taught my Aunt Irene to drive... a fact my aunt is still grateful for...

She let me have pet mice and my sister Ellen pet hamsters, even though they terrified her.

She once made and entire loaf of bread worth of French Toast when my cousins were over, and we ate every piece.

She introduced me to some of the greatest films ever made: It's a Wonderful Life, Roman Holiday, Sabrina... She loved Audrey Hepburn...

She read all the time and instilled the importance of reading- there were always books in the house.

She was kind to everyone, and a true friend. We did not always agree but I always knew I was loved.

Happy Birthday in Heaven Mom- we all miss you!


The "definitive version", as published by The Times and The Sunday Times in Mary Frye's obituary, 5 November 2004:


Do not stand at my grave and weep,

I am not there; I do not sleep.

I am a thousand winds that blow,

I am the diamond glints on snow,

I am the sun on ripened grain,

I am the gentle autumn rain.

When you awaken in the morning’s hush

I am the swift uplifting rush

Of quiet birds in circling flight.

I am the soft starlight at night.

Do not stand at my grave and cry,

I am not there; I did not die.

Wednesday, December 11, 2013

Thankfulness Journal Day 21

Pope Francis is the Person of the Year 2013. And he just amazes me more each day. The article discusses who he is and how he works:

Pope Francis is quoted saying of women who consider abortion because of poverty or rape, “Who can remain unmoved before such painful situations?”

Of gay people: “If a homosexual person is of good will and is in search of God, I am no one to judge.”

To divorced and remarried Catholics who are, by rule, forbidden from taking Communion, he says that this crucial rite “is not a prize for the perfect but a powerful medicine and nourishment for the weak.”


And so Francis signals great change while giving the same answers to the uncomfortable questions.

On the question of female priests: “We need to work harder to develop a profound theology of the woman.” Which means: no.

No to abortion, because an individual life begins at conception.

No to gay marriage, because the male-female bond is established by God.

“The teaching of the church … is clear,” he has said, “and I am a son of the church, but”—and here he adds his prayer for himself—“it is not necessary to talk about those issues all the time.”

If that prayer should be answered, if somehow by his own vivid example Francis could bring the church into a new relationship with its critics and dissidents—agreeing to disagree about issues that divide them while cooperating in the urgent mission of spreading mercy—he might unleash untold good. “Argue less, accomplish more” could be a healing motto for our times. We have a glut of problems to tackle. Francis says by example, Stop bickering and roll up your sleeves. Don’t let the perfect be the enemy of the good—an important thing for the world to hear, especially from a man who holds an office deemed infallible.

What a breath of fresh air... He is all five of my great things today! We do not agree in all things- but to agree to disagree- he gives me hope with his love of all!

Tuesday, December 10, 2013

Thankfulness Journal Days 17, 18, 19 and 20...

I am thankful for the stories I love to watch unfold on TV:

1) Downton Abbey- season 4 is right around the corner...
2) Sherlock Holmes- I love the modern day BBC version with Benedict Cumberbatch and Martin Freeman.
3) Elementary- I like Sherlock here too... and the movies with Jude Law and Robert Downey Jr... I sense a theme here...
4) Carrie Diaries- my guilty pleasure.
5) Necessary Roughness
6) Covert Affairs
7) Blacklist
8) Hostages- yes I know, I am the only one still watching
9) Big Bang Theory
10) The Sing-Off- I like Jewel as a judge.
11) Bones
12) CSI
13) Criminal Minds
14) Scandal- but this week was hard to watch
15) Chicago Fire
16) Royal Pains
17) NCIS
18) NCIS LA
19) Mad Men
20) Grey's Anatomy
21) Modern Family
22) Nashville
23) Rizolli and Isles

Wow- no wonder my DVR is always full!

Friday, December 6, 2013

Thankfulness Journal Day 16

Tsh Oxenreider's 5 Christmas Carols are the five things I am thankful for today. Each brings its own joy to the celebration of the birth of Christ and the wish for peace on earth and good will tomards mankind.

Tonight I will be decorating our Christmas tree listening to these and other favorites. I can't wait.

Thursday, December 5, 2013

Nelson Mandela and the gifts he gave the world...

Dear Mr. Mandela,
My thanks for all you gave the world...

"For to be free is not merely to cast off one's chains, but to live in a way that respects and enhances the freedom of others."

"If you want to make peace with your enemy, you have to work with your enemy. Then he becomes your partner."

"If there are dreams about a beautiful South Africa, there are also roads that lead to their goal. Two of these roads could be named Goodness and Forgiveness."

"We must use time wisely and forever realize that the time is always ripe to do right."

As for my favorite quote- I came to find it was not Mr. Mandela.... but I believe he would share the sentiment...

"...Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?

You are a child of God.

Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others."

This passage is commonly mis-attributed to Nelson Mandela's 1994 Inaugural Address. It actually comes from the book 'A Return To Love' (1992) by Marianne Williamson (Thanks to www.aetw.org)

Thankful Journal Day 15

Today is focused on Christmas. I know some object to how Christmas has gone toward all the "stuff" and moved away from the Nativity story... But I am thankful for:

1) The Christmas specials I loved as a child, that still bring me joy
2) The decorations and lights that make the neighborhood so pretty even on cold wet nights
3) Cards from friends and my family- even my cousin Catherine, who doesn't even wait till December to mail them anymore...
4) My angel tree topper- I have had her since my daughter was a baby and I love seeing her perched on top of my tree
5) Fake trees- Love not having pine needles I need to pick up afterwards.

Wednesday, December 4, 2013

Thankfulness Journal Day 13 and 14

The five things I was thankful for yesterday include:


1) The love of my children

2) The peace of my home

3) The closeness of family

4) The laughter of life's folly

5) The honor of good people who surround me


The five things I am thankful for today include:


1) The joy I share with my friends when we talk

2) The joy of Christmas and all the preparation

3) The joy of surprise gifts in the mail

4) The joy of get togethers that are as fun as they are informal

5) The joy that is 40 lbs gone…

And today, the people I honor are the doctors I work with who support me in supporting EB families. I cannot imagine doing this work without them.

Monday, December 2, 2013

Thankfulness Journal Day Twelve

My favorite websites are what I am thankful for today:


1) BBC news, because it is not all about America

2) Pinterest, because I like to pretend I could ever be that crafty

3) Facebook, because my family and friends cover the globe and it is a great way to stay in touch

4) Blogspot, because I can pretend to be a real writer any time I want

5) Yahoo, for mail, cheesy news stories and Dear Abby

And I am thankful for the Chausmers, my friends who are also family

Sunday, December 1, 2013

World AIDS Day

French scientist Francoise Barre-Sinoussi with her colleague Luc Montagnier  identifyied HIV, the virus that causes AIDS, a plague that has killed about 35 million people since the 1980's. This made testing possible for the first time.

They received the 2008 Nobel Prize in Physiology or Medicine.

And their discovery has led to treatments and improvements in the HIV+ world.

I, for one, am grateful!

So for today, I am thankful for:

1) Francoise Barre-Sinoussi
2) Luc Montagnier 
3) David Ho for protease inhibitors
4) Ryan White
5) The CDC, doctors and researchers who have been fighting the good fight for decades.

Saturday, November 30, 2013

Thankfulness Journal Day Ten

Today I am thankful for my teachers. Here is a shout out to 5 of them:

1) Pat Munhall- I am a nurse because you made me believe
2) Marion O'Connor- You brought out the writer in me
3) Alan Shapiro- You taught me what Pediatrics is in real life
4) Janet Quinones- You showed me the nurse I want to be- YOU!
5) Father Shelley- You shared the history of the world, and geography to boot.

Friday, November 29, 2013

Thankfulness Journal Day Nine

So today I am thankful for the giants of the written world.

1) Sir Arthur Conan Doyle, for Sherlock Holmes
2) JK Rowlings, for Harry Potter
3) CS Lewis, for Narnia
4) Helen Dore Boylston, for Sue Barton
5) Tom Clancy, for Jack Ryan.

Thursday, November 28, 2013

Thanksgiving Day- Thankfulness Journal Day Eight

Happy Thanksgiving to all.

Today I was thinking about the wonderful gifts we have around us every day, thanks to the innovations of the last century.

So I am thankful for:
1) Refrigeration
2) Modern plumbing and water treatment
3) Electricity
4) Antibiotics
5) Vaccines

Each of these items are things we really don't think about. Things we take for granted, expect to have. A century ago, they would have been unheard of... How quickly time changes.

I am off to my aunt's to have a wonderful dinner in the company of family and friends.

Wednesday, November 27, 2013

Thankfulness Journal days 5, 6 and 7

Okay- 15 things today (daily posts are clearly not my strong suit)

Technology:
1) Computers- a gift from the gods!
2) On-line translation- so much easier to let Bing conjugate my verbs.
3) Google and Wikipedia- my kids don't know how good they have it
4) My low tech cell phone- it never holds it against me when I drop it on hard surfaces
5) The electric kettle- I now realize how much I took it for granted before it died- having now boiled dry every pot in the house making tea...

Home
1) Self propelled lawn mowers
2) Indoor plumbing and running water- until you live without it, you don't realize how wonderful it is
3) Hot water all the time- it is so cold outside
4) My washer and dryer- laundry at home is something you appreciate after renting for a lifetime.
5) Ceiling fans with lights- a new addition this year thanks to Kenny, I don't know how I lasted so long without them

Health
1) Good health insurance
2) Excellent doctors
3) First world dental care
4) Food abundance on my journey to a thinner healthier me
5) The health of my children- a gift that is so underrated...

And the people are Ann and Gail- who have always made me feel like a part of their family, and Connie, a friend for the long haul...

Sunday, November 24, 2013

Thankfulness Journal Days 3 and 4

Opps, missed day three- I will need to do 10 items today to make up...

1) My very comfy bed and warm comforter on cold nights
2) Hot tea on a cold morning
3) More than enough clothing for my family (the positive spin on way too much clothing)
4) Cosy slippers to keep my feet warm
5) An abundance of books to read and take me to places I haven't seen yet

6) The ability to borrow tools to do work in my house
7) My Honda- cause it is all good
8) My Ipod that lets me revisit the music of my life
9) Scented candles that make my house smell like home
10) Pictures of all my family all around.

And My thankful people are Andy and Sara, my cousins who are just always so kind and loving to me...  

Friday, November 22, 2013

Thankfulness Journal- Day Two

Day two-

I am thankful for:

1) My work and the wonderful people I have met in the EB Community
2) My experiences traveling and seeing the world
3) The Peace Corps and the amazing people I got to know as a volunteer- I can't wait to do it all again
4) The farm my mom grew up on- it is still home in so many ways
5) The small town I lived in when I was in Guatemala- Saltan is always in my heart.

My sister Ellen is the most amazing woman I know- her life is full of challenges and she is the best mom, wife and sister I know.

So who are you thankful for?

Thursday, November 21, 2013

Thankfulness Journal

A Reminder to be Thankful was posted today by Lysa. She discusses how her son, living in an orphanage, was able to find peace in faith, even when he was hungry and digging in garbage for food.

Wow!

She challenges us to look inword and be thankful so I am going to follow her lead and do a Thankfulness Journal for the next 30 days. The rules are simple:

Reflect and Respond:


Start a thankfulness journal where you daily list five things for which you are thankful. Do this for the next 30 days and see how much more peaceful your mindset about life becomes.

Think of someone who is really thankful. Despite the circumstances they face, are they more peaceful? How does this inspire you?


I am thankful for:

1) My children
2) My siblings
3) The rest of my large far throw family
4) All the amazing friends who bless my life every day
5) My little ranch house that is my home

As for a thankful person, I think my friend Eileen is the person who comes to mind. She has faced the biggest challenges a parent can, and her faith steadies her. One day I hope to grow up to be like her.

What are you thankful for today?


Tuesday, November 19, 2013

11-19-1863

Four score and seven years ago our fathers brought forth on this continent, a new nation, conceived in Liberty, and dedicated to the proposition that all men are created equal.




Now we are engaged in a great civil war, testing whether that nation, or any nation so conceived and so dedicated, can long endure. We are met on a great battle-field of that war. We have come to dedicate a portion of that field, as a final resting place for those who here gave their lives that that nation might live. It is altogether fitting and proper that we should do this.



But, in a larger sense, we can not dedicate -- we can not consecrate -- we can not hallow -- this ground. The brave men, living and dead, who struggled here, have consecrated it, far above our poor power to add or detract. The world will little note, nor long remember what we say here, but it can never forget what they did here. It is for us the living, rather, to be dedicated here to the unfinished work which they who fought here have thus far so nobly advanced. It is rather for us to be here dedicated to the great task remaining before us -- that from these honored dead we take increased devotion to that cause for which they gave the last full measure of devotion -- that we here highly resolve that these dead shall not have died in vain -- that this nation, under God, shall have a new birth of freedom -- and that government of the people, by the people, for the people, shall not perish from the earth.



Abraham Lincoln

November 19, 1863



Wednesday, November 6, 2013

Foster Caregiving- the Home Study

The home study process was an interesting one.

The application was pages long and asked not only about who we are but also who we wanted or didn't want.

I had to get rid of my corn snakes, even though I mentioned owning them during my training classes and nobody said they were not permitted. I was told they would license me, but would never consider placing a child with me as long as I owned the snakes.

So I sold the collection, except for three Kenny will keep for me.

Then I started collecting all the paperwork.

And discovered the court never did send my final divorce paperwork. So off to the courthouse I went, to get a copy.


References from friends and family were next…

Physicals for me and the kids… thankfully we do them anyway.

Vet checks for all my animals…

The collection of baby items and the purchase of a crib… Because they won't place a baby or toddler if you don't already have them.

I read some amazing books on fostering children who had suffered. I talked to friends who were foster parents.

I searched out taxes from 2007-present… Where 2009 is remains a mystery...

There were a series of home visits of over an hour on several occasions… Interviews with both of my children...

Over 14 months of effort…

So I finally got an appointment for my fire inspection- one of the last things left. The final visit would be done after the inspection was complete. I e-mailed the date, excited to be nearing the finish line...

And then I received the following:

“I need to discuss some concerns presented to the agency. I am asking for a time when you will be able to talk and have privacy. If that is impossible (given your work demands, etc) I can email the concerns to you. Let me know and I'll follow up with you accordingly.”

So I called. And found out there were two confidential sources that led to significant concerns and I am considered unsuitable to be a foster parent.

I had two options:

I could appeal a denied home study, but that would only mean more time an effort with very little hope of being approved. I might however have a clearer understanding of what the issues were...

I could withdraw my application. Let go.

I hung up the phone before my sobs were audible...

The follow-up e-mail from the agency was brief:

“I need to know if you want me to follow through with denying your home study or if you would like to withdraw from the process. If you could, please respond by the end of the week. I apologize for any disappointment and frustration the agency has caused you. “

I withdrew my application. I now have to accept that my family will not include more children. Not even temporary ones. And I will never know why.

Honestly, my heart is shattered and bleeding- and I have a house full of baby stuff that needs a real home.
And I need to tell people I was found unsuitable...

All I want to do is crawl up in a ball under the blankets and cry myself to sleep...









Thursday, October 24, 2013

Beruit 1983

Today marks the 30th anniversary of the Beirut Marine Barracks attack. There were 241 service men killed that Sunday morning when  Ismail Ascari crashed a stolen truck full of explosives into the Barracks.

It seemed so far away when it happened. I was in High School and it just seemed so far removed from my life. I didn't know any Marines then. I didn't know any service men or women.

The world is so much smaller now.

Praying for their families today.

Saturday, October 19, 2013

Going Dutch

I read an article on men paying for dates and how they would like help but are afraid to ask...

I have to say, I had the opposite issue. I actively tried to convince the man I was dating that I could afford to cover some of our dating expenses. It took a really long time for him to accept an assist from me. (This even when he took a large cut in salary when business was slow) and his comment was telling- "Are you sure you won't hold this against me?"

Who are men dating that such a question comes up? If I have the ability to help out, I offer. Because I am eating too. I am watching the movie too. And right is right.

But even with my offering regularly, it was the rarest occasion that I was permitted to pick up the check. Occasionally I was allowed to leave a tip.

Mostly I was treated.

So "Thank You" to all the gentlemen who insist on paying, but please feel free to allow me to cover the check sometimes. It is only fair.

Fall TV

So far I like Hostages and Blacklist. Both are new shows, and already Hostages may be on the cancellation list, though reports say they will let it play for the 14 episodes it has in the can.

My sister Ellen's early favorite, Lucky 7, is already gone after only two episodes. Ironside, We are Men, and Welcome to the Family are also gone. I didn't see any of them so no loss for me, though Elle was sad.

And for all my returning shows, it is a mixed bag.

At least Scandal and Nashville are going strong. I am on Team Deacon and Team Jake. And I still cannot believe Olivia's father... OMG!

Grey's Anatomy is in a slump and Bones is just slugging along. Booth and Brennan are  getting married, but it just doesn't compare to the drama of the Gravedigger!

USA is keeping me happy- Covet Affairs and Royal Pains all summer was great but having Annie Walker back already is just so much fun.

Ziva is off in Israel, and my hope is that the new NCIS team menber gels. I am enjoying all the rotating characters in Ziva's chair. It will be fun to see who is seated when the music stops.

In the LS version, Deeks being tortured was the stuff of nightmares. And Callen finally seeing a film of his Russian Major dad was as sweet as it was sad.

So what are you watching?

Vocabulary of Mad Men

penultimate: next to last...

A new word for me. It was used in a description of last season's Mad Men. The penultimate season...

Of course now we know that we are getting two shortened seasons over two years instead of one last season this fall.

Penultimate...not so much. And while Don Draper is good television, this kind of game playing  by AMC is ridiculous. Sheer greed.

It will make me think twice about staying tuned in.

Wednesday, September 11, 2013

Twelve years on...


A beautiful September day...


The World Trade Center Towers and the Pentagon attacked...


Thousands lost...


Palpable grief...


And an army of heros...

I remember.

Thursday, August 22, 2013

Accountability

LZ Granderson makes a number of good points in an article he writes about parental responsibility and criminal behavior in children.

Accountability is in short supply.

When my daughter was in 8th grade, she and three friends were caught with a Burn Book (just like Mean Girls, I imagine). My daughter called me from school devastated and admitted reading and laughing at some of the crude entries. She said the principal would be calling me about the punishment.

I asked her what on God's good earth would possess her to take part in such a cruel demeaning act of bullying. How hurtful it was. How wrong it was.  Did she not remember how much trouble the girls in the movie got into when they were caught?

Sobbing, she acknowledged her mistake.

Then I told her I would fully support whatever punishment the principal wanted to give her. And that I expected not one word of complaint from her.

When the principal called me a short time later, I told her Liz had informed me about what happened..

The principal told me my daughter would have in school suspension for a week for her participation, just as would the other three girls. She explained that the suspension was basically day long detention, where she would work on her schoolwork in isolation.

I asked if she could have some math support, since it was a subject she struggled with. The principal assured me that would be arranged so that she didn't fall behind.

"Sounds good to me."

Now some argued that I should have fought for a lesser punishment- my daughter didn't write the burn book, she was only shown it...

I disagreed.

Because the moment she saw that someone wrote those mean things, she should have told her teacher. That bullying or supporting bullying was never okay.

She needed to be accountable for her actions. And what she did was wrong. I believe she is a better person for my harsh stand.

Thursday, August 1, 2013

“If someone is gay and he searches for the Lord and has good will, who am I to judge?”

"Preach the Gospel, using words when necessary."

While I was away, one of the big news stories was about Pope Francis and his thoughts on gay men and women. And with the spin doctors going at full speed, you can tell it was not what the conservatives of the Catholic Church were expecting to hear... Though I am pretty sure it is pretty close to WWJD.

When Pope Francis was asked about the "gay lobby" as in an inter-curial pressure group (nobody is sure if they lobby for or against the acceptance of gay Catholics), he said while that might be an issue, he did not have a problem with men and women who are homosexual.

“When I meet a gay person, I have to distinguish between their being gay and being part of a lobby,” he said in reply. “If they accept the Lord and have good will, who am I to judge them? They shouldn’t be marginalized. The tendency (to homosexuality) is not the problem ... they're our brothers."

He is very like Pope John XXIII, who will be made a saint this year- the Pope of Vatican II. (Why is Vatican II so important). Ed Asner did a great job or portraying this humble man in "Pope of Peace".

I really like this man. He is a breath of fresh air. I pray for his on-going leadership of the Church.




Wednesday, July 31, 2013

South Africa

I absolutely loved Africa. I am so amazed by all that Peg and I saw and did while we were there.
I am so blown away by the animals, the beautiful vista and the wonderful people we shered the experience with.


Bernie was our Ranger, and she gave us the greatest gift: her outstanding knowledge and love for the animals we spent time with.


And I did some CRAZY STUFF- like petting a cheetah. Yes I did. An adult male and I snuggled and he reminded me of Storm... only bigger... WAY BIGGER!


I got to see Hippos, and birds on Hippos...


And even saw some lizards- such a lovely blue color. I love blue!


And look who just walked up and met us on the road...


I love Africa!

I am SO going back!

Thursday, July 18, 2013

Emmy nods

The 65th Primetime Emmy Awards were announced. And I realised I watch watch way too much TV.

For "Outstanding Drama Series", two of my favorites appeared with 4 shows I NEVER watch...

•"Mad Men"- I love Don Draper, I love the reinvention of the agency, as though it was a character itself, and Roger just has some of the best lines on television.
•"Downton Abbey"- the epic drama covers war and peace for an English family. After a heartbreaking season that saw to main characters die, I can't wait till the January new season...

And then there are the others...
•"Breaking Bad" My brother raves about this one, but I just have not gotten there yet... a someday series. •"Game of Thrones" My brother loves this one too. Red Wedding was the episode I watched. HOLY COW! Moral of the story, don't get attached to anyone.
•"Homeland"... don't know the show, so I got nothing...
•"House of Cards" on Netflix... won't be seeing this one any time soon


For "Outstanding Lead Actress in a drama series, four of my ladies turned up

•Michelle Dockery, "Downton Abbey" Mary frustrates me with her stubborn streak and I hate that she and her sister Edith can be so cruel to one another. Killing Matthew will only strengthen the work.

•Elisabeth Moss, "Mad Men" Peggy in Don's office... WOW!

•Kerry Washington, "Scandal" HER FATHER IS TRYING TO KILL HER- my jaw dropped for sure. Not sure why they didn't get a best drama nod. And I am totally on Team Jake. Who her father put in the hole...

•Connie Britton, "Nashville" I am totally Team Deacon- He better not be dead!


Outstanding lead actor in a drama series- Two of my best guys made the list.

•Jon Hamm, "Mad Men" Of course he is the Susab Lucci of Drama, but here's to hoping...

•Hugh Bonneville, "Downton Abbey" After watching 4 seasons, I an totally hooked.


Oustanding supporting actor in a drama series- Love my guy!

•Jim Carter, "Downton Abbey" Totally love his fatherly character!



Outstanding supporting actress in a drama series- My two ladies rock

•Christina Hendricks, "Mad Men" Joan is totally in charge!

•Maggie Smith, "Downton Abbey" LOVE HER IN EVERYTHING, but in this she is just the best crafty old lady! Don't get on her bad side!


And when it comes to comedy, it is ALL ABOUT Big Bang where I come from!

Outstanding comedy series

•"The Big Bang Theory"

Outstanding lead actor in a comedy series

•Jim Parsons, "The Big Bang Theory"

Outstanding supporting actress in a comedy series

•Mayim Bialik, "The Big Bang Theory"


Totally want them to sweep!


Outstanding miniseries or movie

•"Political Animals" I really liked this series- I was reminded of West Wing... Loved it.

•"The Bible" I thought this was extremely well done, and I was surprised not only by some of the stories included, but also by some skipped over.

•"Behind the Candelabra" This one BORED me to tears- and I thought it would be so interesting... Very disappointed. So much so that I gave up without seeing the end.

As for actors in miniseries, Political Animals does it for me.

Outstanding actress in a miniseries or movie
•Sigourney Weaver, "Political Animals" A powerful woman running the world

Outstanding supporting actress in a miniseries or movie
•Ellen Burstyn, "Political Animals" Love Ellen, and this character is one of her best.


Outstanding reality competition program...

•"The Amazing Race" The one I want to be on...

•"Dancing With the Stars"... The one I can't stop watching...


Outstanding host for a reality or reality-competition program

•Tom Bergeron, "Dancing with the Stars" He is okay, but the judges give the show flavor...

•Anthony Bourdain, "The Taste"- I don't watch this show but I love Anthony Bourdain...


Outstanding variety series

•"The Daily Show with Jon Stewart" Who doesn't love Jon Stewart?

In other categories, I have no opinion...  Can't wait to see how my folks make out on September 22nd.

Thursday, July 4, 2013

A big week in the storm that is politics

DOMA decision Where gay marriage is legal (12 states and counting) federal recognition of those marriages will be required.

Voters rights Section 4 -- the formula the federal government uses to determine which states and counties are subject to continued oversight -- was struck down. Roberts said that formula, which was devised in 1972 and later reauthorized by Congress, is outdated and unworkable. (CNN.com)

Affirmative Action The Supreme Court, in an anticlimax, sidestepped a sweeping ruling on affirmative action Monday, directing lower courts to re-examine whether a race-conscious admissions program at the University of Texas at Austin should survive constitutional scrutiny.
The 7-1 ruling reflected a broad consensus across the court's ideological spectrum, but the justices reached near unanimity only by bypassing the core question in affirmative-action cases—whether racial diversity qualifies as a compelling government objective justifying preferential treatment. (Wall Street Journal)


Proposition 8 was sent back on standing- the folks who brought the suit to court don't have standing to bring it to court, so it will go back to the ninth circuit in California and be dismissed on those grounds. Not an answer, but a good start.

Texas abortion filibuster Wendy Davis -- the 50-year-old Democrat postpones changes in abortion access. Fighting the good fight.





Tuesday, July 2, 2013

Zillow update

Two years ago, I wrote about my house being underwater. Very underwater.

My house hit a value of $109,817 today on Zillow. Which means my house is worth about $10 more than I owe on it. This would be hilarious if it wasn't so sad.

It is a good thing I really love my house- cause I am going to be here for a while.

Monday, July 1, 2013

Martyr

"The Vatican is confirming the death by beheading of Franciscan Father, Francois Murad, who was martyred by Syrian jihadists on June 23." This is the news today.

Franciscan Father Francois Murad died after fighters linked to the jihadist group Jabhat al-Nusra attacked the monastery where he was staying in Gassanieh, in northern Syria, in the convent of the Custody of the Holy Land where he had taken refuge.

He was brutally beheaded and of course there is video- his head slowly sawed off with a small knife- I use a larger one to cut up chicken. Afterwards, his head was held up for display, before it was balanced on his lifeless body. The second man beheaded with him- the knife was too dull, so it was dropped to the ground in favor of a sharper one. I could watch no more
The attackers believe the men supported the current leadership in Syria.

I am heartsick. Saddened. And so angry. To do this to a holy man. Any holy man of any religion. Any man... I would not do this to an animal.

Rest in Peace...






Wednesday, May 29, 2013

Snakes


This is my snow corn snake. She is a beautiful baby. I am sending her to a new home in a couple of weeks...

Also going to the same home, I am sending a snake I bred...

 
and a Rex Look-alike
 

Three of my babies... and more going soon...

I miss them already!
 

Tuesday, May 28, 2013

Tax Refund 2013

Each year, I try to put my tax refund back into my house, and this year was no exception. I finally replaced my pool deck, and the results are below.
 
I am still amazed at the workmanship of Tony Stamm- he is truly an artist. He and his team built me the most wonderful deck replacement- I LOVE IT!

 
 
And of course the building inspector was out several times during the process to ensure it was all up to code. I think it far surpasses my wildest expectations. The floor is made of the non-wood decking composite, so it doesn't need to be sealed stained or treated- the bonus is a deck without splinters. Even on a hot day, it will not burn my feet.

 
 
I love that you no longer have to go through the grass to get in the pool. I love that there is plenty of room and that it doubles my entertaining space. I love that it will last as long as I am in the house.


 
Let summer begin!
 

Wednesday, May 22, 2013

60 days to go...

So today marks the two month mark.

We are two months out
Only two months to go till our depature.

I still CANNOT believe it. A dream coming true.

AFRICA

I have my passport, my shots are done, all our travel related items are paid for. I have a friend loaning me a great camera. I have safari friendly clothes to wear, a bag to pack in, and a great travel buddy to share it with. It will be the trip of a lifetime!

Wednesday, May 8, 2013

A Retrieved Reformation

When I was in Seventh grade, we read a story about Jimmy Valentine. He was released from jail after Ben Price caught up with him and arrested him- Jimmy was a safe cracker by trade...

After robberies in Indiana and Mousouri, Jimmy moved to Elmore, Arkansas and became Ralph D. Spencer. He opened a shoe store (the trade he learned in prison) and set out to win Annabel Adams' hand in marriage.

I won't spoil the end, but it remains my favorite. Even though I could not remember the author's name, I remembered the story. It wasn't till college that I learned it was written by O. Henry, author of Gift of the Magi- another wonderful tale.

So if you are looking for a wonderful warm feeling, read this story and fall in love!

Monday, May 6, 2013

Flyin Pig Follow-up

Saturday and Sunday I worked at the Flying Pig in Cincinnati, answering questions about Epidermolysis Bullosa



We had Dorothy Lane cookies donated by Erin


Teddy Bears


Lip Balm and Bracelets


And we raised some money. A good weekend.

Tuesday, April 30, 2013

What is your "all"?

The notion that women can have it all, in the way society defines "all," is a ridiculous myth. That's OK. What matters is I have my version of "all." Maria Cardona

Wow... this is a tough one. My all. Happy healthy well adjusted kids.

A house that is a home.

A job that is more than a career. That makes a difference...

The MyHeathPath challenge put a different spin on it:
It sounds lofty, but knowing what you value most in life can do wonders for maintaining motivation and focus.

For this challenge, identify the things in life you value the most. First, make a long list of everything that comes to mind. Then try to circle your top three. Take a step to match your time and energy with your highest values and earn 10 MHP points.


I got my list down to four that encompass all I am and who I strive to be.
  1. God
  2. Family
  3. Love
  4. Honesty
Making the world a better place, and the work I do, my kids, my family and friends, these are the things that need to be my priority. Because at the end of it, they are what matters. They are my "all". The rest is decoration.

As a side note, I am on my way to a heathier weight.
I am over 1500 points on MyHealthPath and am 3rd in the current round of Biggest Loser with one weigh in left.
My All!
  

Wednesday, April 24, 2013

Born to blush unseen...

Elegy Written in a Country Churchyard
By
Thomas Gray (1716–1771) 

The curfew tolls the knell of parting day,
The lowing herd wind slowly o'er the lea,
The plowman homeward plods his weary way,
And leaves the world to darkness and to me.

Now fades the glimm'ring landscape on the sight,
And all the air a solemn stillness holds,
Save where the beetle wheels his droning flight,
And drowsy tinklings lull the distant folds;

Save that from yonder ivy-mantled tow'r
The moping owl does to the moon complain
Of such, as wand'ring near her secret bow'r,
Molest her ancient solitary reign.

Beneath those rugged elms, that yew-tree's shade,
Where heaves the turf in many a mould'ring heap,
Each in his narrow cell for ever laid,
The rude forefathers of the hamlet sleep.

The breezy call of incense-breathing Morn,
The swallow twitt'ring from the straw-built shed,
The cock's shrill clarion, or the echoing horn,
No more shall rouse them from their lowly bed.

For them no more the blazing hearth shall burn,
Or busy housewife ply her evening care:
No children run to lisp their sire's return,
Or climb his knees the envied kiss to share.
Oft did the harvest to their sickle yield,
Their furrow oft the stubborn glebe has broke;
How jocund did they drive their team afield!
How bow'd the woods beneath their sturdy stroke!

Let not Ambition mock their useful toil,
Their homely joys, and destiny obscure;
Nor Grandeur hear with a disdainful smile
The short and simple annals of the poor.

The boast of heraldry, the pomp of pow'r,
And all that beauty, all that wealth e'er gave,
Awaits alike th' inevitable hour.
The paths of glory lead but to the grave.

Nor you, ye proud, impute to these the fault,
If Mem'ry o'er their tomb no trophies raise,
Where thro' the long-drawn aisle and fretted vault
The pealing anthem swells the note of praise.

Can storied urn or animated bust
Back to its mansion call the fleeting breath?
Can Honour's voice provoke the silent dust,
Or Flatt'ry soothe the dull cold ear of Death?

Perhaps in this neglected spot is laid
Some heart once pregnant with celestial fire;
Hands, that the rod of empire might have sway'd,
Or wak'd to ecstasy the living lyre.

But Knowledge to their eyes her ample page
Rich with the spoils of time did ne'er unroll;
Chill Penury repress'd their noble rage,
And froze the genial current of the soul.

Full many a gem of purest ray serene,
The dark unfathom'd caves of ocean bear:
Full many a flow'r is born to blush unseen,
And waste its sweetness on the desert air.

Some village-Hampden, that with dauntless breast
The little tyrant of his fields withstood;
Some mute inglorious Milton here may rest,
Some Cromwell guiltless of his country's blood.
Th' applause of list'ning senates to command,
The threats of pain and ruin to despise,
To scatter plenty o'er a smiling land,
And read their hist'ry in a nation's eyes,

Their lot forbade: nor circumscrib'd alone
Their growing virtues, but their crimes confin'd;
Forbade to wade through slaughter to a throne,
And shut the gates of mercy on mankind,

The struggling pangs of conscious truth to hide,
To quench the blushes of ingenuous shame,
Or heap the shrine of Luxury and Pride
With incense kindled at the Muse's flame.

Far from the madding crowd's ignoble strife,
Their sober wishes never learn'd to stray;
Along the cool sequester'd vale of life
They kept the noiseless tenor of their way.

Yet ev'n these bones from insult to protect,
Some frail memorial still erected nigh,
With uncouth rhymes and shapeless sculpture deck'd,
Implores the passing tribute of a sigh.

Their name, their years, spelt by th' unletter'd muse,
The place of fame and elegy supply:
And many a holy text around she strews,
That teach the rustic moralist to die.

For who to dumb Forgetfulness a prey,
This pleasing anxious being e'er resign'd,
Left the warm precincts of the cheerful day,
Nor cast one longing, ling'ring look behind?

On some fond breast the parting soul relies,
Some pious drops the closing eye requires;
Ev'n from the tomb the voice of Nature cries,
Ev'n in our ashes live their wonted fires.

For thee, who mindful of th' unhonour'd Dead
Dost in these lines their artless tale relate;
If chance, by lonely contemplation led,
Some kindred spirit shall inquire thy fate,

Haply some hoary-headed swain may say,
"Oft have we seen him at the peep of dawn
Brushing with hasty steps the dews away
To meet the sun upon the upland lawn.

"There at the foot of yonder nodding beech
That wreathes its old fantastic roots so high,
His listless length at noontide would he stretch,
And pore upon the brook that babbles by.

"Hard by yon wood, now smiling as in scorn,
Mutt'ring his wayward fancies he would rove,
Now drooping, woeful wan, like one forlorn,
Or craz'd with care, or cross'd in hopeless love.

"One morn I miss'd him on the custom'd hill,
Along the heath and near his fav'rite tree;
Another came; nor yet beside the rill,
Nor up the lawn, nor at the wood was he;

"The next with dirges due in sad array
Slow thro' the church-way path we saw him borne.
Approach and read (for thou canst read) the lay,
Grav'd on the stone beneath yon aged thorn."


THE EPITAPH

Here rests his head upon the lap of Earth
A youth to Fortune and to Fame unknown.
Fair Science frown'd not on his humble birth,
And Melancholy mark'd him for her own.

Large was his bounty, and his soul sincere,
Heav'n did a recompense as largely send:
He gave to Mis'ry all he had, a tear,
He gain'd from Heav'n ('twas all he wish'd) a friend.

No farther seek his merits to disclose,
Or draw his frailties from their dread abode,
(There they alike in trembling hope repose)
The bosom of his Father and his God.





Friday, April 19, 2013

April 19th in History

In 1992, while I was in Guatemala, My nephew Andrew was born. The best thing that ever happened on April 19th....

Cause it is a rough day in American history...

In 1993, on Andy's first birthday, we watched as the Waco, TX compound of the Branch Davidians (a splinter group from 7th day Adventists) blazed out of control after a 51 day standoff with federal authorities.  The siege began because of the group's inventory of high-powered illegal firearms.

David Koresh, leader of the group, perished in the flames. 80 were dead, a quarter of them were children. Only nine survivors made it to safety. Four federal officers also lost their lives.

Crazy.

Two years later, Timothy McVeigh truck-bombed the Alfred P. Murrah Building on April 19, 1995, to protest both the Branch Davidian siege and the August 21-22, 1992 events at Ruby Ridge. It also marked the 220th anniversary of the Battle of Concord and Lexington.

The bomb went off just after 9am, killing 168 people including 3 pregnant women and 19 babies and children, and I will never forget this image:



A photograph of firefighter Chris Fields removing infant Baylee Almon (who later died in a nearby hospital) from the destruction
(Taken by credit specialist Charles H. Porter IV, earned the 1996 Pulitzer Prize for Spot News Photography)



Both McVeigh and his co-conspirator Terry Nichols were quickly taken into custody.

Accomplices Michael and Lori Fortier testified against McVeigh and Nichols; Michael was sentenced to 12 years in prison for failing to warn the U.S. government, and Lori received immunity from prosecution in exchange for her testimony. On January 20, 2006, after serving ten and a half years of his sentence, including time already served, Fortier was released for good behavior into the Witness Protection Program and got a new identity.

I am not sure I see where the on-going threat is that he gets to walk away from what he has done... Not sure that is fair... But nobody asked me, I suppose.

McVeigh was executed for his crimes in 2001. Terry Nichols will spend his life in prison.

Thankfully, more recent events are more upbeat.

The happier news includes Pope Benedict's election on April 19th, 2005. (Funny, Pope Francis was elected on my birthday this time around...)

And today, Andrew is 21 years old- Time has simply flown by.

Happy Birthday, my sweet boy!




Wednesday, April 17, 2013

Ode: Intimations Of Immortality From Recollections Of Early Childhood

When I was still living at home and stuggling to figure out who I was going to be, I started writing. I wrote stories, poems and read everything. I amd now sharing favorites with you.

Ode: Intimations Of Immortality From Recollections Of Early Childhood

There was a time when meadow, grove, and stream,

The earth, and every common sight,

To me did seem

Apparelled in celestial light,

The glory and the freshness of a dream.

It is not now as it hath been of yore;--

Turn wheresoe'er I may,

By night or day,

The things which I have seen I now can see no more.



The Rainbow comes and goes,

And lovely is the Rose,

The Moon doth with delight

Look round her when the heavens are bare,

Waters on a starry night

Are beautiful and fair;

The sunshine is a glorious birth;

But yet I know, where'er I go,

That there hath past away a glory from the earth.



Now, while the birds thus sing a joyous song,

And while the young lambs bound

As to the tabor's sound,

To me alone there came a thought of grief:

A timely utterance gave that thought relief,

And I again am strong:

The cataracts blow their trumpets from the steep;

No more shall grief of mine the season wrong;

I hear the Echoes through the mountains throng,

The Winds come to me from the fields of sleep,

And all the earth is gay;

Land and sea

Give themselves up to jollity,

And with the heart of May

Doth every Beast keep holiday;--

Thou Child of Joy,

Shout round me, let me hear thy shouts, thou happy

Shepherd-boy!



Ye blessed Creatures, I have heard the call

Ye to each other make; I see

The heavens laugh with you in your jubilee;

My heart is at your festival,

My head hath its coronal,

The fulness of your bliss, I feel--I feel it all.

Oh evil day! if I were sullen

While Earth herself is adorning,

This sweet May-morning,

And the Children are culling

On every side,

In a thousand valleys far and wide,

Fresh flowers; while the sun shines warm,

And the Babe leaps up on his Mother's arm:--

I hear, I hear, with joy I hear!

--But there's a Tree, of many, one,

A single Field which I have looked upon,

Both of them speak of something that is gone:

The Pansy at my feet

Doth the same tale repeat:

Whither is fled the visionary gleam?

Where is it now, the glory and the dream?



Our birth is but a sleep and a forgetting:

The Soul that rises with us, our life's Star,

Hath had elsewhere its setting,

And cometh from afar:

Not in entire forgetfulness,

And not in utter nakedness,

But trailing clouds of glory do we come

From God, who is our home:

Heaven lies about us in our infancy!

Shades of the prison-house begin to close

Upon the growing Boy,

But He beholds the light, and whence it flows,

He sees it in his joy;

The Youth, who daily farther from the east

Must travel, still is Nature's Priest,

And by the vision splendid

Is on his way attended;

At length the Man perceives it die away,

And fade into the light of common day.



Earth fills her lap with pleasures of her own;

Yearnings she hath in her own natural kind,

And, even with something of a Mother's mind,

And no unworthy aim,

The homely Nurse doth all she can

To make her Foster-child, her Inmate Man,

Forget the glories he hath known,

And that imperial palace whence he came.



Behold the Child among his new-born blisses,

A six years' Darling of a pigmy size!

See, where 'mid work of his own hand he lies,

Fretted by sallies of his mother's kisses,

With light upon him from his father's eyes!

See, at his feet, some little plan or chart,

Some fragment from his dream of human life,

Shaped by himself with newly-learned art;

A wedding or a festival,

A mourning or a funeral;

And this hath now his heart,

And unto this he frames his song:

Then will he fit his tongue

To dialogues of business, love, or strife;

But it will not be long

Ere this be thrown aside,

And with new joy and pride

The little Actor cons another part;

Filling from time to time his "humorous stage"

With all the Persons, down to palsied Age,

That Life brings with her in her equipage;

As if his whole vocation

Were endless imitation.



Thou, whose exterior semblance doth belie

Thy Soul's immensity;

Thou best Philosopher, who yet dost keep

Thy heritage, thou Eye among the blind,

That, deaf and silent, read'st the eternal deep,

Haunted for ever by the eternal mind,--

Mighty Prophet! Seer blest!

On whom those truths do rest,

Which we are toiling all our lives to find,

In darkness lost, the darkness of the grave;

Thou, over whom thy Immortality

Broods like the Day, a Master o'er a Slave,

A Presence which is not to be put by;

Thou little Child, yet glorious in the might

Of heaven-born freedom on thy being's height,

Why with such earnest pains dost thou provoke

The years to bring the inevitable yoke,

Thus blindly with thy blessedness at strife?

Full soon thy Soul shall have her earthly freight,

And custom lie upon thee with a weight

Heavy as frost, and deep almost as life!



O joy! that in our embers

Is something that doth live,

That nature yet remembers

What was so fugitive!

The thought of our past years in me doth breed

Perpetual benediction: not indeed

For that which is most worthy to be blest--

Delight and liberty, the simple creed

Of Childhood, whether busy or at rest,

With new-fledged hope still fluttering in his breast:--

Not for these I raise

The song of thanks and praise;

But for those obstinate questionings

Of sense and outward things,

Fallings from us, vanishings;

Blank misgivings of a Creature

Moving about in worlds not realised,

High instincts before which our mortal Nature

Did tremble like a guilty Thing surprised:

But for those first affections,

Those shadowy recollections,

Which, be they what they may,

Are yet the fountain light of all our day,

Are yet a master light of all our seeing;

Uphold us, cherish, and have power to make

Our noisy years seem moments in the being

Of the eternal Silence: truths that wake,

To perish never;

Which neither listlessness, nor mad endeavour,

Nor Man nor Boy,

Nor all that is at enmity with joy,

Can utterly abolish or destroy!

Hence in a season of calm weather

Though inland far we be,

Our Souls have sight of that immortal sea

Which brought us hither,

Can in a moment travel thither,

And see the Children sport upon the shore,

And hear the mighty waters rolling evermore.



Then sing, ye Birds, sing, sing a joyous song!

And let the young Lambs bound

As to the tabor's sound!

We in thought will join your throng,

Ye that pipe and ye that play,

Ye that through your hearts to-day

Feel the gladness of the May!

What though the radiance which was once so bright

Be now for ever taken from my sight,

Though nothing can bring back the hour

Of splendour in the grass, of glory in the flower;

We will grieve not, rather find

Strength in what remains behind;

In the primal sympathy

Which having been must ever be;

In the soothing thoughts that spring

Out of human suffering;

In the faith that looks through death,

In years that bring the philosophic mind.



And O, ye Fountains, Meadows, Hills, and Groves,

Forebode not any severing of our loves!

Yet in my heart of hearts I feel your might;

I only have relinquished one delight

To live beneath your more habitual sway.

I love the Brooks which down their channels fret,

Even more than when I tripped lightly as they;

The innocent brightness of a new-born Day

Is lovely yet;

The Clouds that gather round the setting sun

Do take a sober colouring from an eye

That hath kept watch o'er man's mortality;

Another race hath been, and other palms are won.

Thanks to the human heart by which we live,

Thanks to its tenderness, its joys, and fears,

To me the meanest flower that blows can give

Thoughts that do often lie too deep for tears.

credits

Friday, April 12, 2013

Katelyn Markham

On the weekend of the Sacred Heart festival,  K atelyn Markham, 22, disappeared. Her last contact was a photo sent to her boyfriend's phone on August 14th 2011.

She lived in my area- a little over a mile from my house. And she disappeared without a trace.

They searched for her. They came and searched my yard. And those of all my neighbors. Because we all lived so close. I shudder when I think of it.

Flyers went up. It was on the news. And the trail was cold.

The anniversary passed.

Kayelyn was gone. And her family and friends grieved.

On Sunday, a couple of guys searching in an Indiana “dump site” for scrap metal to sell found bones covered in garbage by a creek. They have been IDed as Katelyn's remains.

The closure is good for the family and now they can properly grieve the loss. Hopefully the police will be able to figure out what happened.

Rest in Peace, sweet girl. I pray for your family.

If Today Was Your Last Day ~ Nickelback


My best friend gave me the best advice

He said each day's a gift and not a given right

Leave no stone unturned, leave your fears behind

... And try to take the path less traveled by

That first step you take is the longest stride


If today was your last day

And tomorrow was too late

Could you say goodbye to yesterday?

Would you live each moment like your last?

Leave old pictures in the past

Donate every dime you have?

If today was your last day


Against the grain should be a way of life

What's worth the prize is always worth the fight

Every second counts 'cause there's no second try

So live like you'll never live it twice

Don't take the free ride in your own life



If today was your last day

And tomorrow was too late

Could you say goodbye to yesterday?

Would you live each moment like your last?

Leave old pictures in the past

Donate every dime you have?

Would you call old friends you never see?

Reminisce old memories

Would you forgive your enemies?

Would you find that one you're dreamin' of?

Swear up and down to God above

That you finally fall in love

If today was your last day



If today was your last day

Would you make your mark by mending a broken heart?

You know it's never too late to shoot for the stars

Regardless of who you are

So do whatever it takes

'Cause you can't rewind a moment in this life

Let nothin' stand in your way

Cause the hands of time are never on your side



If today was your last day

And tomorrow was too late

Could you say goodbye to yesterday?



Would you live each moment like your last?

Leave old pictures in the past

Donate every dime you have?

Would you call old friends you never see?

Reminisce old memories

Would you forgive your enemies?

Would you find that one you're dreamin' of?

Swear up and down to God above

That you finally fall in love

If today was your last day

Wednesday, April 10, 2013

The Flying Pig Fundraiser

The following request was sent to EVERYONE I have an e-mail address for- if you didn't receive it, I need your contact info :)


Hello everyone, and I do mean everyone, as I am sending this to everyone in my contact list! (And if you get this twice, sorry!)


I hope this finds you well.

On May 4- 5th, the Flying Pig Half and full Marathon take place here in Cincinnati, and I'd like to ask you all for some help.

(And NO, I am NOT running in the Marathon/half/ etc- I will be working in the Charity Village at the DebRA table both days.)

I am asking for donations for children with epidermolysis bullosa (EB) a genetic disease. All the money that you donate will go to DebRA of America, the foundation I work for. Debra’s mission is to not only fund research for EB but also provide medical, emotional and financial support for my families struggling with the day-to-day hardships of life with EB.

EB is a very rare, genetic condition that causes the skin to be so fragile that it blisters, wounds, and scars upon touch both inside and out of the bodies. For some, the skin between their fingers and toes web so that they can't use their hands and feet. Some require surgery just so they can eat. Unfortunately, some never reach adulthood. Every day, my kids and their parents have to go through a painful process of washing and wrapping with special bandages that can take up to 3 hours. The bandages themselves can cost thousands of dollars a month, not to mention the cost of the surgeries.

For the past seven years, I have been working with these children, their families and their providers. I've spent many hours talking with these families about how this condition has affected their lives. The families are simply amazing...they break my heart, but many times, they astound me with their courage and positivity.

I don't typically like asking people for money, but I REALLY want to help my families. And I realize times are hard and not everyone can help... I understand if you can’t give…but if you can, I would greatly appreciate it! Please feel free to share my link. To donate, please go to this website:

Debra Flying Pig   And if you are in the area on the 4th or 5th, stop by our table- we will be selling our new t-shirts and all sorts of goodies.
Thanks again!

Best regards,

Geri