Tuesday, April 30, 2013

What is your "all"?

The notion that women can have it all, in the way society defines "all," is a ridiculous myth. That's OK. What matters is I have my version of "all." Maria Cardona

Wow... this is a tough one. My all. Happy healthy well adjusted kids.

A house that is a home.

A job that is more than a career. That makes a difference...

The MyHeathPath challenge put a different spin on it:
It sounds lofty, but knowing what you value most in life can do wonders for maintaining motivation and focus.

For this challenge, identify the things in life you value the most. First, make a long list of everything that comes to mind. Then try to circle your top three. Take a step to match your time and energy with your highest values and earn 10 MHP points.


I got my list down to four that encompass all I am and who I strive to be.
  1. God
  2. Family
  3. Love
  4. Honesty
Making the world a better place, and the work I do, my kids, my family and friends, these are the things that need to be my priority. Because at the end of it, they are what matters. They are my "all". The rest is decoration.

As a side note, I am on my way to a heathier weight.
I am over 1500 points on MyHealthPath and am 3rd in the current round of Biggest Loser with one weigh in left.
My All!
  

Wednesday, April 24, 2013

Born to blush unseen...

Elegy Written in a Country Churchyard
By
Thomas Gray (1716–1771) 

The curfew tolls the knell of parting day,
The lowing herd wind slowly o'er the lea,
The plowman homeward plods his weary way,
And leaves the world to darkness and to me.

Now fades the glimm'ring landscape on the sight,
And all the air a solemn stillness holds,
Save where the beetle wheels his droning flight,
And drowsy tinklings lull the distant folds;

Save that from yonder ivy-mantled tow'r
The moping owl does to the moon complain
Of such, as wand'ring near her secret bow'r,
Molest her ancient solitary reign.

Beneath those rugged elms, that yew-tree's shade,
Where heaves the turf in many a mould'ring heap,
Each in his narrow cell for ever laid,
The rude forefathers of the hamlet sleep.

The breezy call of incense-breathing Morn,
The swallow twitt'ring from the straw-built shed,
The cock's shrill clarion, or the echoing horn,
No more shall rouse them from their lowly bed.

For them no more the blazing hearth shall burn,
Or busy housewife ply her evening care:
No children run to lisp their sire's return,
Or climb his knees the envied kiss to share.
Oft did the harvest to their sickle yield,
Their furrow oft the stubborn glebe has broke;
How jocund did they drive their team afield!
How bow'd the woods beneath their sturdy stroke!

Let not Ambition mock their useful toil,
Their homely joys, and destiny obscure;
Nor Grandeur hear with a disdainful smile
The short and simple annals of the poor.

The boast of heraldry, the pomp of pow'r,
And all that beauty, all that wealth e'er gave,
Awaits alike th' inevitable hour.
The paths of glory lead but to the grave.

Nor you, ye proud, impute to these the fault,
If Mem'ry o'er their tomb no trophies raise,
Where thro' the long-drawn aisle and fretted vault
The pealing anthem swells the note of praise.

Can storied urn or animated bust
Back to its mansion call the fleeting breath?
Can Honour's voice provoke the silent dust,
Or Flatt'ry soothe the dull cold ear of Death?

Perhaps in this neglected spot is laid
Some heart once pregnant with celestial fire;
Hands, that the rod of empire might have sway'd,
Or wak'd to ecstasy the living lyre.

But Knowledge to their eyes her ample page
Rich with the spoils of time did ne'er unroll;
Chill Penury repress'd their noble rage,
And froze the genial current of the soul.

Full many a gem of purest ray serene,
The dark unfathom'd caves of ocean bear:
Full many a flow'r is born to blush unseen,
And waste its sweetness on the desert air.

Some village-Hampden, that with dauntless breast
The little tyrant of his fields withstood;
Some mute inglorious Milton here may rest,
Some Cromwell guiltless of his country's blood.
Th' applause of list'ning senates to command,
The threats of pain and ruin to despise,
To scatter plenty o'er a smiling land,
And read their hist'ry in a nation's eyes,

Their lot forbade: nor circumscrib'd alone
Their growing virtues, but their crimes confin'd;
Forbade to wade through slaughter to a throne,
And shut the gates of mercy on mankind,

The struggling pangs of conscious truth to hide,
To quench the blushes of ingenuous shame,
Or heap the shrine of Luxury and Pride
With incense kindled at the Muse's flame.

Far from the madding crowd's ignoble strife,
Their sober wishes never learn'd to stray;
Along the cool sequester'd vale of life
They kept the noiseless tenor of their way.

Yet ev'n these bones from insult to protect,
Some frail memorial still erected nigh,
With uncouth rhymes and shapeless sculpture deck'd,
Implores the passing tribute of a sigh.

Their name, their years, spelt by th' unletter'd muse,
The place of fame and elegy supply:
And many a holy text around she strews,
That teach the rustic moralist to die.

For who to dumb Forgetfulness a prey,
This pleasing anxious being e'er resign'd,
Left the warm precincts of the cheerful day,
Nor cast one longing, ling'ring look behind?

On some fond breast the parting soul relies,
Some pious drops the closing eye requires;
Ev'n from the tomb the voice of Nature cries,
Ev'n in our ashes live their wonted fires.

For thee, who mindful of th' unhonour'd Dead
Dost in these lines their artless tale relate;
If chance, by lonely contemplation led,
Some kindred spirit shall inquire thy fate,

Haply some hoary-headed swain may say,
"Oft have we seen him at the peep of dawn
Brushing with hasty steps the dews away
To meet the sun upon the upland lawn.

"There at the foot of yonder nodding beech
That wreathes its old fantastic roots so high,
His listless length at noontide would he stretch,
And pore upon the brook that babbles by.

"Hard by yon wood, now smiling as in scorn,
Mutt'ring his wayward fancies he would rove,
Now drooping, woeful wan, like one forlorn,
Or craz'd with care, or cross'd in hopeless love.

"One morn I miss'd him on the custom'd hill,
Along the heath and near his fav'rite tree;
Another came; nor yet beside the rill,
Nor up the lawn, nor at the wood was he;

"The next with dirges due in sad array
Slow thro' the church-way path we saw him borne.
Approach and read (for thou canst read) the lay,
Grav'd on the stone beneath yon aged thorn."


THE EPITAPH

Here rests his head upon the lap of Earth
A youth to Fortune and to Fame unknown.
Fair Science frown'd not on his humble birth,
And Melancholy mark'd him for her own.

Large was his bounty, and his soul sincere,
Heav'n did a recompense as largely send:
He gave to Mis'ry all he had, a tear,
He gain'd from Heav'n ('twas all he wish'd) a friend.

No farther seek his merits to disclose,
Or draw his frailties from their dread abode,
(There they alike in trembling hope repose)
The bosom of his Father and his God.





Friday, April 19, 2013

April 19th in History

In 1992, while I was in Guatemala, My nephew Andrew was born. The best thing that ever happened on April 19th....

Cause it is a rough day in American history...

In 1993, on Andy's first birthday, we watched as the Waco, TX compound of the Branch Davidians (a splinter group from 7th day Adventists) blazed out of control after a 51 day standoff with federal authorities.  The siege began because of the group's inventory of high-powered illegal firearms.

David Koresh, leader of the group, perished in the flames. 80 were dead, a quarter of them were children. Only nine survivors made it to safety. Four federal officers also lost their lives.

Crazy.

Two years later, Timothy McVeigh truck-bombed the Alfred P. Murrah Building on April 19, 1995, to protest both the Branch Davidian siege and the August 21-22, 1992 events at Ruby Ridge. It also marked the 220th anniversary of the Battle of Concord and Lexington.

The bomb went off just after 9am, killing 168 people including 3 pregnant women and 19 babies and children, and I will never forget this image:



A photograph of firefighter Chris Fields removing infant Baylee Almon (who later died in a nearby hospital) from the destruction
(Taken by credit specialist Charles H. Porter IV, earned the 1996 Pulitzer Prize for Spot News Photography)



Both McVeigh and his co-conspirator Terry Nichols were quickly taken into custody.

Accomplices Michael and Lori Fortier testified against McVeigh and Nichols; Michael was sentenced to 12 years in prison for failing to warn the U.S. government, and Lori received immunity from prosecution in exchange for her testimony. On January 20, 2006, after serving ten and a half years of his sentence, including time already served, Fortier was released for good behavior into the Witness Protection Program and got a new identity.

I am not sure I see where the on-going threat is that he gets to walk away from what he has done... Not sure that is fair... But nobody asked me, I suppose.

McVeigh was executed for his crimes in 2001. Terry Nichols will spend his life in prison.

Thankfully, more recent events are more upbeat.

The happier news includes Pope Benedict's election on April 19th, 2005. (Funny, Pope Francis was elected on my birthday this time around...)

And today, Andrew is 21 years old- Time has simply flown by.

Happy Birthday, my sweet boy!




Wednesday, April 17, 2013

Ode: Intimations Of Immortality From Recollections Of Early Childhood

When I was still living at home and stuggling to figure out who I was going to be, I started writing. I wrote stories, poems and read everything. I amd now sharing favorites with you.

Ode: Intimations Of Immortality From Recollections Of Early Childhood

There was a time when meadow, grove, and stream,

The earth, and every common sight,

To me did seem

Apparelled in celestial light,

The glory and the freshness of a dream.

It is not now as it hath been of yore;--

Turn wheresoe'er I may,

By night or day,

The things which I have seen I now can see no more.



The Rainbow comes and goes,

And lovely is the Rose,

The Moon doth with delight

Look round her when the heavens are bare,

Waters on a starry night

Are beautiful and fair;

The sunshine is a glorious birth;

But yet I know, where'er I go,

That there hath past away a glory from the earth.



Now, while the birds thus sing a joyous song,

And while the young lambs bound

As to the tabor's sound,

To me alone there came a thought of grief:

A timely utterance gave that thought relief,

And I again am strong:

The cataracts blow their trumpets from the steep;

No more shall grief of mine the season wrong;

I hear the Echoes through the mountains throng,

The Winds come to me from the fields of sleep,

And all the earth is gay;

Land and sea

Give themselves up to jollity,

And with the heart of May

Doth every Beast keep holiday;--

Thou Child of Joy,

Shout round me, let me hear thy shouts, thou happy

Shepherd-boy!



Ye blessed Creatures, I have heard the call

Ye to each other make; I see

The heavens laugh with you in your jubilee;

My heart is at your festival,

My head hath its coronal,

The fulness of your bliss, I feel--I feel it all.

Oh evil day! if I were sullen

While Earth herself is adorning,

This sweet May-morning,

And the Children are culling

On every side,

In a thousand valleys far and wide,

Fresh flowers; while the sun shines warm,

And the Babe leaps up on his Mother's arm:--

I hear, I hear, with joy I hear!

--But there's a Tree, of many, one,

A single Field which I have looked upon,

Both of them speak of something that is gone:

The Pansy at my feet

Doth the same tale repeat:

Whither is fled the visionary gleam?

Where is it now, the glory and the dream?



Our birth is but a sleep and a forgetting:

The Soul that rises with us, our life's Star,

Hath had elsewhere its setting,

And cometh from afar:

Not in entire forgetfulness,

And not in utter nakedness,

But trailing clouds of glory do we come

From God, who is our home:

Heaven lies about us in our infancy!

Shades of the prison-house begin to close

Upon the growing Boy,

But He beholds the light, and whence it flows,

He sees it in his joy;

The Youth, who daily farther from the east

Must travel, still is Nature's Priest,

And by the vision splendid

Is on his way attended;

At length the Man perceives it die away,

And fade into the light of common day.



Earth fills her lap with pleasures of her own;

Yearnings she hath in her own natural kind,

And, even with something of a Mother's mind,

And no unworthy aim,

The homely Nurse doth all she can

To make her Foster-child, her Inmate Man,

Forget the glories he hath known,

And that imperial palace whence he came.



Behold the Child among his new-born blisses,

A six years' Darling of a pigmy size!

See, where 'mid work of his own hand he lies,

Fretted by sallies of his mother's kisses,

With light upon him from his father's eyes!

See, at his feet, some little plan or chart,

Some fragment from his dream of human life,

Shaped by himself with newly-learned art;

A wedding or a festival,

A mourning or a funeral;

And this hath now his heart,

And unto this he frames his song:

Then will he fit his tongue

To dialogues of business, love, or strife;

But it will not be long

Ere this be thrown aside,

And with new joy and pride

The little Actor cons another part;

Filling from time to time his "humorous stage"

With all the Persons, down to palsied Age,

That Life brings with her in her equipage;

As if his whole vocation

Were endless imitation.



Thou, whose exterior semblance doth belie

Thy Soul's immensity;

Thou best Philosopher, who yet dost keep

Thy heritage, thou Eye among the blind,

That, deaf and silent, read'st the eternal deep,

Haunted for ever by the eternal mind,--

Mighty Prophet! Seer blest!

On whom those truths do rest,

Which we are toiling all our lives to find,

In darkness lost, the darkness of the grave;

Thou, over whom thy Immortality

Broods like the Day, a Master o'er a Slave,

A Presence which is not to be put by;

Thou little Child, yet glorious in the might

Of heaven-born freedom on thy being's height,

Why with such earnest pains dost thou provoke

The years to bring the inevitable yoke,

Thus blindly with thy blessedness at strife?

Full soon thy Soul shall have her earthly freight,

And custom lie upon thee with a weight

Heavy as frost, and deep almost as life!



O joy! that in our embers

Is something that doth live,

That nature yet remembers

What was so fugitive!

The thought of our past years in me doth breed

Perpetual benediction: not indeed

For that which is most worthy to be blest--

Delight and liberty, the simple creed

Of Childhood, whether busy or at rest,

With new-fledged hope still fluttering in his breast:--

Not for these I raise

The song of thanks and praise;

But for those obstinate questionings

Of sense and outward things,

Fallings from us, vanishings;

Blank misgivings of a Creature

Moving about in worlds not realised,

High instincts before which our mortal Nature

Did tremble like a guilty Thing surprised:

But for those first affections,

Those shadowy recollections,

Which, be they what they may,

Are yet the fountain light of all our day,

Are yet a master light of all our seeing;

Uphold us, cherish, and have power to make

Our noisy years seem moments in the being

Of the eternal Silence: truths that wake,

To perish never;

Which neither listlessness, nor mad endeavour,

Nor Man nor Boy,

Nor all that is at enmity with joy,

Can utterly abolish or destroy!

Hence in a season of calm weather

Though inland far we be,

Our Souls have sight of that immortal sea

Which brought us hither,

Can in a moment travel thither,

And see the Children sport upon the shore,

And hear the mighty waters rolling evermore.



Then sing, ye Birds, sing, sing a joyous song!

And let the young Lambs bound

As to the tabor's sound!

We in thought will join your throng,

Ye that pipe and ye that play,

Ye that through your hearts to-day

Feel the gladness of the May!

What though the radiance which was once so bright

Be now for ever taken from my sight,

Though nothing can bring back the hour

Of splendour in the grass, of glory in the flower;

We will grieve not, rather find

Strength in what remains behind;

In the primal sympathy

Which having been must ever be;

In the soothing thoughts that spring

Out of human suffering;

In the faith that looks through death,

In years that bring the philosophic mind.



And O, ye Fountains, Meadows, Hills, and Groves,

Forebode not any severing of our loves!

Yet in my heart of hearts I feel your might;

I only have relinquished one delight

To live beneath your more habitual sway.

I love the Brooks which down their channels fret,

Even more than when I tripped lightly as they;

The innocent brightness of a new-born Day

Is lovely yet;

The Clouds that gather round the setting sun

Do take a sober colouring from an eye

That hath kept watch o'er man's mortality;

Another race hath been, and other palms are won.

Thanks to the human heart by which we live,

Thanks to its tenderness, its joys, and fears,

To me the meanest flower that blows can give

Thoughts that do often lie too deep for tears.

credits

Friday, April 12, 2013

Katelyn Markham

On the weekend of the Sacred Heart festival,  K atelyn Markham, 22, disappeared. Her last contact was a photo sent to her boyfriend's phone on August 14th 2011.

She lived in my area- a little over a mile from my house. And she disappeared without a trace.

They searched for her. They came and searched my yard. And those of all my neighbors. Because we all lived so close. I shudder when I think of it.

Flyers went up. It was on the news. And the trail was cold.

The anniversary passed.

Kayelyn was gone. And her family and friends grieved.

On Sunday, a couple of guys searching in an Indiana “dump site” for scrap metal to sell found bones covered in garbage by a creek. They have been IDed as Katelyn's remains.

The closure is good for the family and now they can properly grieve the loss. Hopefully the police will be able to figure out what happened.

Rest in Peace, sweet girl. I pray for your family.

If Today Was Your Last Day ~ Nickelback


My best friend gave me the best advice

He said each day's a gift and not a given right

Leave no stone unturned, leave your fears behind

... And try to take the path less traveled by

That first step you take is the longest stride


If today was your last day

And tomorrow was too late

Could you say goodbye to yesterday?

Would you live each moment like your last?

Leave old pictures in the past

Donate every dime you have?

If today was your last day


Against the grain should be a way of life

What's worth the prize is always worth the fight

Every second counts 'cause there's no second try

So live like you'll never live it twice

Don't take the free ride in your own life



If today was your last day

And tomorrow was too late

Could you say goodbye to yesterday?

Would you live each moment like your last?

Leave old pictures in the past

Donate every dime you have?

Would you call old friends you never see?

Reminisce old memories

Would you forgive your enemies?

Would you find that one you're dreamin' of?

Swear up and down to God above

That you finally fall in love

If today was your last day



If today was your last day

Would you make your mark by mending a broken heart?

You know it's never too late to shoot for the stars

Regardless of who you are

So do whatever it takes

'Cause you can't rewind a moment in this life

Let nothin' stand in your way

Cause the hands of time are never on your side



If today was your last day

And tomorrow was too late

Could you say goodbye to yesterday?



Would you live each moment like your last?

Leave old pictures in the past

Donate every dime you have?

Would you call old friends you never see?

Reminisce old memories

Would you forgive your enemies?

Would you find that one you're dreamin' of?

Swear up and down to God above

That you finally fall in love

If today was your last day

Wednesday, April 10, 2013

The Flying Pig Fundraiser

The following request was sent to EVERYONE I have an e-mail address for- if you didn't receive it, I need your contact info :)


Hello everyone, and I do mean everyone, as I am sending this to everyone in my contact list! (And if you get this twice, sorry!)


I hope this finds you well.

On May 4- 5th, the Flying Pig Half and full Marathon take place here in Cincinnati, and I'd like to ask you all for some help.

(And NO, I am NOT running in the Marathon/half/ etc- I will be working in the Charity Village at the DebRA table both days.)

I am asking for donations for children with epidermolysis bullosa (EB) a genetic disease. All the money that you donate will go to DebRA of America, the foundation I work for. Debra’s mission is to not only fund research for EB but also provide medical, emotional and financial support for my families struggling with the day-to-day hardships of life with EB.

EB is a very rare, genetic condition that causes the skin to be so fragile that it blisters, wounds, and scars upon touch both inside and out of the bodies. For some, the skin between their fingers and toes web so that they can't use their hands and feet. Some require surgery just so they can eat. Unfortunately, some never reach adulthood. Every day, my kids and their parents have to go through a painful process of washing and wrapping with special bandages that can take up to 3 hours. The bandages themselves can cost thousands of dollars a month, not to mention the cost of the surgeries.

For the past seven years, I have been working with these children, their families and their providers. I've spent many hours talking with these families about how this condition has affected their lives. The families are simply amazing...they break my heart, but many times, they astound me with their courage and positivity.

I don't typically like asking people for money, but I REALLY want to help my families. And I realize times are hard and not everyone can help... I understand if you can’t give…but if you can, I would greatly appreciate it! Please feel free to share my link. To donate, please go to this website:

Debra Flying Pig   And if you are in the area on the 4th or 5th, stop by our table- we will be selling our new t-shirts and all sorts of goodies.
Thanks again!

Best regards,

Geri

Monday, April 8, 2013

A Perfect Sunday

So what makes the perfect Sunday...

A sunny day, warm and beautiful...

An 8am  "Alleluia" mass...

A friend visiting from out of state...

God school...

A visit with family that came with home made chili...

Watching Jimmie Johnson win at Martinsville... Again...

Desperately Seeking Susan and a visit to 1985... Because my friend had never seen it...

Finding a lost snake... who seems happy to have been found...

Dinner at Bob Evans...

Two hours of Mad Men recording on the DVR...

Life is good...

Wednesday, April 3, 2013

The List

Micah Six Eight: The List:

Have you ever considered turning your life inside out? Changing your routine, needs, wants... everything in every way?

Have you ever considered fostering a child in need? Adopting a child in need?

My family has been talking about it for years and last summer I completed the course training to become a foster cargiver. The home study (which is a LONG complicated process) is coming along... baby steps still, but a little closer to finished.

I talk regularly to folks who are fostering, and all the stories match what are training talked about- these kids are special, and need different things than the kids who have grown up in my home.

And then I read the list.

Wow!

The insight should be mandatory reading for everyone considering adopting or fostering children. I am in awe of the folks who put it together and shared it. Today I am sharing it as well. A powerful reminder of how different children can be due to how they were raised.

Monday, April 1, 2013

April Fool's day

A year ago today, I wrote a post in honor of the day- and it was great fun. This morning, I was warned that nothing I wrote today would be taken as it. Instead, close scrutiny would be applied.

So I will not regale you with stories of how I met Brad Pitt at Paddy Reilly's in Manhatten (he was a bit scruffy, to tell the truth), chatted with Sonia Sotomayor at Cardinal Spellman when we ran into each other there ( I brought my 1984 yearbook as the alumni office didn't have a copy), and shared a cab with Greg Lake across town in a downpour (he paid, lovely man)...

By the way, two of those stories are actually true....

I won't try and trick you, like Sports Illustrated did in 1985. And 2013 Youtube: Shutdown!

I won't talk about the 30 states and 18 countries I have visited, the three countries I have lived in, or the fact that I have moved over 25 times in my lifetime... Yes, that is a lot of boxes...

All of those are true, by the way...

But it does make you wonder how well you know a person, doesn't it?

So watch out for the tricks out and about today. And if you see a good one, let me know.